Pausing In Life And Realizing That Time Really Does Fly Sometimes
When I was younger, people used to talk about their kids growing up and that it appeared to happen in a blink of an eye. When you are focused on the day to day operations of caring for your kids, you aren’t really thinking about that. It is funny, but when your kids are grown and out of the house, it does seem like time really did fly by. Why is that?
It is like you look around and your most critical purpose in life has changed. Now what? You have been a mother or father for years. I wouldn’t want to tell the kids this, but the parent’s world does revolve around the kids. I am sure some parents have the balance down between taking care of the kids and taking care of the spouse, but even if your first priority is making sure you stay strong as a couple, life still revolves around the kids.
I reflect at all the things I wished I had done better or differently, even though at the time, I did the best I could. Still, there are things I feel my kids missed out on and it is rather sad because you can’t get that time back. You can’t back up the train and run it again.
Living in the past doesn’t really accomplish anything though. Live in the present, right? Even if your kids are grown, there is still a lot you can offer them. Continued love, wisdom and unconditional friendship, to name a few. For many, like myself, I think this time of life is when our pets become even more important to us. They are little souls that we can love unconditionally and care for. It is also the time to embrace other things in life to fill that gap, I guess.
If married, you can focus more on strengthening the relationship with your spouse. Maybe you can go out on more dates or even vacations as you are not slave to a school schedules anymore. Maybe it is time to embark on a new career path. Maybe you have more time now to help others in the community. Maybe take some special classes yourself. There are endless possibilities.
It is time for your adult children to make their own way in life. Just be there for them, embrace them as allows and enjoy their adulthood as you enjoyed their childhood. Your role may have changed, but as their mother or father, you are still important in their lives. Navigate through those strange feelings you might have and figure out your new focus.
So then, they are out on their own. What are you going to do now?