Your Life’s Journey Is At A Standstill

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When You Feel Your Life’s Journey Is At A Standstill

Your Life's Journey Is At A StandstillHave you ever been in a place on your life’s journey when you feel at a standstill? Seems all you can do is just endure. You see little hope for change, no particular joy that inspires your day. You question why you are even here, what’s the purpose of this ever hanging cloud over your daily life and dreams. That is, if you even have dreams anymore. Are they there? You call out to them in the mist and dimness of your day.

It just seems like you’ve been in this place on your journey for so long. You just don’t seem to be moving forward out of this mediocre place in your life. Maybe you don’t feel your journey is at a standstill at all, but you know someone else, someone you love dearly, that can’t seem to move forward on their journey.

How do we get ourselves in these spots? And as important, how do we get past them? I do believe there are many reasons we get there, unique to each individual. Our solution to get moving again often relates to how we got there, but not always.

Some say life is simple and we make it complex, some say the opposite. I believe it is a little of both and many times challenges can get to be so convoluted it is difficult to get to the core cause, but again, not always. I also believe that quite often, we can be our worse enemy. We tend to block ourselves from moving forward by holding onto the past, focusing on things we can longer change or developing unhealthy fears or behaviors that become our new habit pattern. If we linger too long, we tend to develop habit patterns that keep us in this negative unfulfilled reality.

We may become depressed, sad or angry. As these emotions become entrenched, we have a tendency to have these negative emotions as our focus. And as the experts say, what we focus on usually becomes our reality. It does appear that this is true, for the most part. That being said then, how do we change this focus to something more healthy and positive when we are so encased in this capsule of pain?

Moving Your Life’s Journey Past An Unhealthy Standstill

Here are some tips gathered by well respected experts that you might want to try. I understand that deep rooted depression, sadness or anger can be so debilitating that it is hard to muster up any energy to try anything If that is the case, then an antidepressant may take the edge off things, so you can.

As someone in the medical field for 30+ years, I definitely prefer natural things over pharmaceuticals, whenever possible, but if the natural remedies you find don’t work for you, you may want to consider an antidepressant from your doctor. You might be surprised just who and how many people are using an antidepressant medication. They can be of a great help to some people. Sometimes, simply being positive is not enough. There can be other reasons for your depression or whatever it is that is keeping you at a standstill on your life journey. Having a professional help you with this can give you the boost you need to work on other things on your own that can help.

Here are some other things you might find helpful to get your journey moving in a positive direction again. It won’t happen overnight, even baby steps are steps, so celebrate that. It will take practice and persistence, so don’t give up. Some of the ideas may be more suited to you than others. If one doesn’t do it for you, try another. A lot of these are small things that can seem more doable, not so overwhelming. Try them all!!!

1. Praying, asking the Lord for help in the difficult time.

Prayer is always number 1 on any list, in my opinion. I always think of Peter walking on the water to Jesus. As soon as he took his eyes off Jesus and focused on the storm around him, he started to sink, but Jesus helped him to refocus on Him no matter what was going on around him.

2. Focusing on things you are grateful for.

If you can get in the habit of writing down or at least taking a few quiet moments at the end or start of your day and ponder on 5 new things you are grateful for, it really can help change your mindset. It really does help. It is so easy to get distracted with our challenge, that we don’t see what may be good in our lives. You may be missing something big or even tiny. Search for it.

3. Think about and of course, do at least one thing for someone else to make their day better.

Doesn’t have to be something elaborate, just something simple. It is so easy to get away from this when you are depressed, sad or angry. If you get in the habit of doing this each day, it can have amazing results. Even on days when you don’t get out of the house, you might be able to think of something you can do for a neighbor, making a phone call or sending an email to someone you know encouraging them or complimenting them in some way. It doesn’t always have to be something tangible, a prayer for someone you know is fantastic too.

4. Smile, even if you don’t feel like it.

Experts tell us that smiling releases happy positive chemicals in our body. Just the act of pulling up the corners of our mouths. It may be hard at first, but practice, even if home alone. And if you can laugh, that sends even more good positive happy chemicals in your body. Watch some funny shows or Christian comedians. Get a daily dose of a laughter if possible.

5. Be mindful of your self-talk.

If you are using words that put yourself down or things that confirm you are stuck that don’t encourage getting out of being unstuck, it can keep you stuck. For example, “I just can’t seem to get past this problem.” Or “Why can’t I get past this?”

How you frame your questions can make a big difference. My study into the subconscious mind as a hypnotherapist demonstrated this time and time again in my clients. Our subconscious mind is a powerful thing. Using the statement above, “why can’t I get past this?,” will put your subconscious mind to work on that question and it will come up with reasons why you can’t and ultimately confirm that you can’t.

What if you worded that, “how can I get past this standstill? (You can fill in whatever the challenge is for you). Framing the question this way will also put your subconscious mind to work in answering the question. Only the way this question is worded will have your subconscious mind coming up with possible ways you can get past the standstill and start moving forward.

Some Final Thoughts On Moving Your Life’s Journey Past An Unhealthy Standstill

Last point, if you know what has gotten your life journey at a standstill, work on developing a healthy perspective to whatever it is and let it go. Your past doesn’t define who you are today unless you let it. Whether it is something you feel guilty for or something or someone who caused you hurt, you can’t go back and change it. You can only repair the results in some instances and then move on.

I get that some people have dealt with some horrendous events. Unfortunately, many folks deal with some real injustices done to them, many as children, that affect them as adults. Look at you though, you survived and you are still here. Do you really want to live in the past all your life? If it is a matter of forgiveness, then choose to forgive. It won’t make the memory go away, but you are free to make new memories, better ones.

If someone has hurt us in the past, we oftentimes have a tendency to hold onto the hurt and anger. We may even associate our self-worth around the situation. We may allow a chapter in our life to be basically the end of the book, when really it is just part of your story. You “simply” need to turn the page to the next chapter, a new chapter that you can write as you go. Whatever happened is part of your journey, but the chapter is over, move onto the next one. Make it a better one. Will it happen overnight, not likely. Challenges are not always pleasant, but they have purpose. A purpose that is not always understandable.

Let go of the past. Definitely learn from it, but live in the present and have hope for the future.

Isaiah 43:18-19
“Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland.” (NIV)

We do not always know why we face the trials we do, but what we do know is that no one escapes trials of some kind. We are told that even though on this present earth, we may not understand it all, we are told in God’s word that it has some purpose, that it is preparing us for great things, either in our current days on earth or those in heaven.

Keeping this all in mind as we go through challenging and often painful events on this current earth can help us keep the right perspective. I do think that often, this all is easier said than done, but it is a process worth working through.

Making these suggestions daily habits won’t prevent all bad things from happening. That is just not realistic. It will help us, however, to minimize our life’s journey standstill moments and keep us moving forward on a more happy and positive path.


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